While the weekend is generally known for being a time to let loose and relax from a busy and tough 5 days prior, it’s weird how it really turns into the WEAK END of our lives.
Everything worthwhile starts on a “Monday”, right? It’s always the first day for the diet, the exercise program, the new job training, the being nice and a good human (as we learned that at church on Sunday), the being productive, the being a better and more disciplined parent, blah blah blah.
We focus so much on being on point with our lives Monday through Friday, that the weekend literally turns into the Weak End of our existence. We hustle and commit and are disciplined Monday through MOST OF Friday, let’s be real, yet when those other two days that start with an S hit, it’s like a whole other life and your alter ego comes out or some shit?
We have goals and structure and are efficient as hell for 4.5 days, and all of a sudden we “feel” we deserve a break for the next 2.5. Like WTF?! In all reality, we often just use the weekend as a time to be weak. Weak in our commitments, out of integrity with our positive choices and good habits, weak at staying on task with what we say we’re up to or want or even deserve.
We know we do this, yet we’re all irritated, defeated, and sometimes even mad as hell that life isn’t looking the way we want it to! The waistline doesn’t, the bank account doesn’t, the laundry room doesn’t, the relationships don’t, the diploma you don’t have doesn’t, etc.
Monday through Friday morning: We save money, or spend wisely. We eat well and hit the gym or yoga mat. We have structure and routines with our kids and partners and loved ones and pets. We’re diligent in our to do lists and at meetings, or closing that sale. We say our prayers or set time for meditation or reading and personal development.
Friday night hits and because we had a great or good or even just survived 4.5 days, we seriously turn into another human being and rebel against weekday Susan! Weekend Susan doesn’t need structure and every damn minute planned! Weekend Susan is tiiiiired. She doesn’t need to eat well or minimize stupid purchases. She can have the extra 2-3 drinks or glasses of wine. She can let her kids do whatever they want and they can eat all the cookies and fries they want…cause we “earned it”, didn’t we?!
Then comes Sunday night and it’s the last hoorah for eating whatever, spending whatever, no rules or structure BS, being lazy, etc….cause Monday is coming. And on Mondays, we rise. We get “on point” with all of the things we say we want for our lives. The management position at work, the more comfortable size of clothing, the newer car that isn’t a money pit, the sweet and precious kids, the vitamins, the vacation fund loaded up so we can take a real break.
Definitely not saying that every day has to be so strict and militant and blah, yet when we take a look at life, or the last month or year or even 5 years, I can assume that most of the damage you did, or why you didn’t reach the goals you wanted to reach, or don’t have what you want, look how you want, enjoy the family dynamics that you want, is because those two days known as the WEEKEND, were the ultimate WEAK END in your programming.
It’s something to think about. If Saturday and Sunday were split mid-week, and they didn’t come back to back, would you do as much damage to what you’re up to or after in life? If they came one at a time, and then were followed by 2-3 weekdays, would you screw around so much? Would you be so lax? Or would you maintain a bit more structure and focus and integrity?
Or altogether, if you only let one or even two weekends a month be your Weak Ends, how would your life be different?! If you had to wait 12 days to let loose or spend whatever or not be so on point, would it make a difference in your life if you looked back over a year or decade? Would your health be better? Your financial situation? Your career? Your parenting? Or who you are as a partner or spouse or friend or child?
There are plenty of people and books and studies of various topics in life that say 90% adherence produces the same results, or nearly the same results, as 100% adherence. The way we function with this Weak End stuff – is essentially 65% adherence, people. And even if you suck at math, I know you gotta know that 65 is nowhere near 90!
Reality is, we all have weak areas of our lives. Situations and dynamics and even people who trigger our weak side. Are Saturday and Sunday part of your weakness that you never even considered? Are they the reason, or a large contributing factor, to why you aren’t where you want to be – cause you just take it too damn far and out of context every 4.5 days? If you can honestly take a look and say no, keep kicking ass at this game called life! If it’s a kind of, ehhhh probably, or damn – absolutely, maybe you read this article and restructure a bit? Maybe you only go weak on one weekend day? Maybe you do the one or two a month thing?! Or maybe you just don’t go so damn balls to the wall or chaotic on the weekends anymore? Maybe you try to bring a bit more integrity to the S days, and chill out on all the commitment lacking activities and crappy habits and downward spiraling ways of being the next time Saturday and Sunday come around.
And who knows – maybe those days that start with an S will turn into you wearing an S on your chest and winning alllllll the things you ever wanted out of life?!?!
